My Moon Portal
A Lunar Companion for the Wise Soul
Libra Full Moon
Casey Wick Abley
A Libran full Moon facing an Aries Sun offers us an opportunity to explore
how it feels to be our individual selves, in real space and time. The
quickest way to experience ourselves, is to show ourselves to another
person. They respond to us and we respond to them. So much to uncover
within these interactions! The Aries Sun says, “This is me through my
eyes!” The Libra Full Moon responds with “And this is you in another’s
eyes.”
Practice One: Comradery
Casey Wick Abley
During this Full Moon in Libra, create a “Me Wheel.”
Draw a circle on a piece of paper and divide the circle into a number of “pie slices.”
In each “slice” write a word or phrase that describes you. For example, “enjoys sports” and/or “worries a lot” and/or “night owl” and/or “reads poetry.”
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Once your chart is filled in (and don’t worry about making sure you have
chosen all the words and phrases that apply to you, just a few will do)
review what you have written.
Consider how these traits might express themselves within relationships.
For example, consider “enjoys sports.” Do you enjoy watching sports or playing sports? Alone or with friends? Do you practice healthy sportsmanship if you play? Are you a happier partner to others after you have been active in a sport?
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Then, put it into practice. Invite someone to participate in sport with you and set the intention to create an experience that uplifts you both.
Consider how you feel, later in the day when you have some time alone. Is there anything about the experience you would change? Anything you might let go? How can you celebrate the ways in which your authentic self contributed to the joy shared within the interaction and the relationship?
Practice Two: Self-Advocacy
Casey Wick Abley
This practice explores the ways in which everyone can get needs met,
even when things don’t feel fair.
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Step One: consider the difference between being aggressive and being
assertive. If you have younger children, they will learn this best by
observing you. You will be the model for how to be assertive without being
aggressive.
Simply set an intention for yourself to show confidence and leadership throughout the day as you relate to your young child.
Use the word “assertive” from time to time to make the association.
If you are not comfortable being assertive, this could be just the thing the Full Moon in Libra wants to show you.
If so, investigate your own habits around advocating for yourself within relationships, and explore your personal relationship to the act and experience of leadership.
With older children you can look up each word and discuss their definitions:
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From Merriam-Webster
Aggressive:
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a: tending toward or exhibiting aggression or aggressive behavior
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b: marked by combative readiness
an aggressive fighter
Assertive:
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a: disposed to or characterized by bold or confident statements and behavior an assertive leader
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Spend the day practicing healthy ways to advocate for your needs, and
encourage your children to do the same.
Practice Three: Boundaries
Casey Wick Abley
Set at least one boundary at this Libra Full Moon. Libra loves to collaborate
and be together. However, every healthy relationship is made up of healthy individuals, and healthy individuals have healthy boundaries.
Most of us are not well practiced in this area. So, at this Full Moon, begin a practice of setting conscious healthy boundaries.
This may require skills like being assertive, as discussed in Ritual 2.
This might require knowing yourself well enough to know what you need, as discussed in Ritual 1.
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For example, let’s say you benefit from having some quiet time alone each day. However, you live in a home full of people who need you and in a society full of distractions vying for your attention.
In order to be with the people you love without becoming drained and potentially aggressive, you need that time alone.
In order to have that time alone, you must set a boundary for yourself in a way that others can respect.
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If you have very small children, being realistic will help. For a while, even
the first several years of their lives, your alone time will be shorter.
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As they grow, your alone time will also grow. So, be realistic. How much alone time can you realistically set aside and protect with at least some success?
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From here, communicate your specific need and your intention to protect that need with a boundary. Begin by setting aside 5 minutes to be alone.
Let your loved ones know you will be taking 5 minutes to yourself and you
do not want to be approached for the entire 5 minutes. Perhaps you make
a beautiful sign to hang on the bedroom door to alert the others that you are having alone time.
Spend 5 minutes alone each day for a few days, always letting your loved ones know ahead of time, giving them instructions on how to respect the boundary. Then move the time to 10 minutes.
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Increase the time by whatever small increment you feel is most realistic in
your home. Reiterate the boundary and the expectation. Set yourself and
your loved one up for success by communicating with love and
assertiveness. With consistent practice, you will have the time you need and your loved ones will develop an understanding, through experience, of healthy boundaries.
They will begin to set their own healthy boundaries when they are ready too.
Libra Quotes
by a Libra Moon
Emma Stone
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You know how sports teach kids teamwork and how to be strong and brave and confident? Improv was my sport. I learned how to not waffle and how to hold a conversation, how to take risks and actually be excited to fail.
I used to do Facebook but you get a little too wrapped up in that stuff. It's more distracting than anything, so I don't any more. I left it behind. I detoxed!
Libra Quotes
by a Libra Moon
Claire Danes
Growing up, I wanted desperately to please, to be a good girl.
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Relationships are a constant negotiation and balance.
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When you really get it right in acting, it's an act of empathy. You feel less distant from others, and that is really exciting.
I have plenty of vanity in my life. I want to look pretty in the world. But it can be this bottomless pit.
Key Words and Phrases
Weigh your options
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Balance
Collaborate
Contribute
Cooperate
Connect
Discern
Justify
Pacify
Partner
Witness
We are
by Tagore
O you shaggy-headed banyan tree standing on the bank of the pond,
have you forgotten the little child,
like the birds that have nested in your branches and left you?
Do you not remember how he sat at the window
and wondered at the tangle of your roots and plunged underground?
The women would come to fill their jars in the pond,
and your huge black shadow would wriggle
on the water like sleep struggling to wake up.
Sunlight danced on the ripples like
restless tiny shuttles weaving golden tapestry.
Two ducks swam by the weedy margin above their shadows,
and the child would sit still and think.
He longed to be the wind and blow through your resting branches,
to be your shadow and lengthen with the day on the water,
to be a bird and perch on your topmost twig,
and to float like those ducks among the weeds and shadows.
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No man is an island,
Entire of itself;
Every man is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less,
As well as if a promontory were:
As well as if a manor of thy friend's
Or of thine own were.
Any man's death diminishes me,
Because I am involved in mankind.
And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;
It tolls for thee.
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Libra is ruled by Venus. In this work of art, the sculptor kisses his statue at the moment Venus/Aphrodite brings it to life. A love of art. A love that can
only exist between two individuals who each have a life force all their own.
Balance the Aries-Libra Axis
